Aleyce Simmonds Embraces Deeply Personal Infertility Struggle.
“This is a song for any of you out there who have known this pain and this yearning. Not just to be a mother, but to know what it’s like to desperately want anything in life, to do everything within your power to achieve it and for whatever reason, it be just out of reach. I urge you not to wait, and not to give up. Anything worth having is worth fighting for. Don’t leave a single stone unturned or breath unaccounted for” – Aleyce Simmonds.
For as long as singer-songwriter Aleyce Simmonds can remember, she has dreamt of being a mother.
“Having the most incredible and selfless mother myself, a woman who has always without fail, given everything within her power for me, my two sisters Karlee and Sarah and our little angel brother, Joshua, certainly would have fuelled this fire,” she said.
“What shoes to fill, but my gosh have I wanted to try get close.”
Now that the Tamworth Golden Guitar winning artist is weeks from welcoming her first baby, Aleyce is highlighting her struggles with infertility and hoping to help others heal along the way with her new single, ‘Being A Mother’, out December 8.
“Life doesn’t always go as we plan,” she said.
“Between not meeting my life partner until later in life, a journey with endometriosis and adenomyosis amongst other things and a career where I toured the world making music, being a mother was something that wasn’t quite possible for me in the way that I hoped it would be.”
When Aleyce met her now husband, Nathan Love, she said she saw the pieces start to fall into place.
“I had met a man who would be a beautiful father and with whom, I couldn’t wait to start a family,” she said.
“We started trying quite early in our relationship because, when you know you know and, we had a special family member holding on to life with every little hope and we were desperate to give him another reason to hold on.”
However, a few years down the track, they were still unable to have the baby they so dearly wished for.
“Instead of holding our baby, I was holding our hopes and watching tears fall more and more with each passing month,” Aleyce said.
“It wasn’t truly until the news that we were expecting a second and third nephew or niece that the all-consuming love hit me even harder and I realised that time was never going to wait and we’d already waited too long.
“With the support of our families, but in particular, my sister Karlee who encouraged me constantly to try IVF, we finally took the leap.”
When Aleyce began writing ‘Being A Mother’, she was “drenched in tears on the floor, feeling alone and isolated and broken”.
Sharing the story with her drummer friend, Mat Duniam, together they finished ‘Being A Mother’ and, like a manifestation, Aleyce is now enjoying feeling those little kicks and hearing her little girl’s heartbeat.
“I hope with all my heart that one day you can hold your dream in your hands, like my wildest dream to be a mother, will soon be in mine,” she said.